Dear Kristian,
Unless I send you a link to this “letter,” you will probably never read it. It used to drive me crazy that you didn’t want to read my blog, but now I find it to be charmingly endearing. You assume (and correctly so), that I’m already telling you the important bits about my life. The rest is just rambling.
(And let’s face it, most of what I’m blathering about on here is just rambling).
It’s almost hard to believe that, a month from today, we’re going to stand up in front of our friends, family and Bay End Farm and promise to love, cherish and always do the laundry.
(Well, you’re going to promise to always do the laundry. That is, if you leave all of this vow writing business up to me).
A few years ago I told you that I’d be happy to marry you at a fancy wedding, in Vegas or at City Hall. And I meant it. I’m certainly not sad to have an excuse to throw a big, fun party for a large assortment of our favorite people. But I’d give up the decorations, the cake, the pouffy dress for a chance to spend the rest of my life with you.
(Don’t go thinking this means no more pouffy dress. That sucker is already bought and paid for).
Somehow, when I was busy compiling everybody’s travel schedules and decoupaging 72+ tea lights, I forgot to get all excited about the most important part of our day. The part where you promise to always do the laundry love me forever. Well, this morning when I was listening to a playlist of potential processional songs on my iPhone, I pictured us walking into our wedding together. Which, of course, led to me picturing us saying our wedding vows. Which gave me the happy happies.
It might just have been the caffeine talking, but I walked to work today with a smile on my face and a spring in my step.
At my bachelorette party a few weeks ago, my friends paid for a psychic to give me a tarot card reading. I wasn’t too impressed with most of what he had to say, but he did mention that he didn’t think that I would enjoy the wedding until the details were behind me. He said it’s because I’m a Virgo, but I’m more inclined to think that it’s just because I can get really, really anal about these sorts of things. Whatever the reason, he might have had a point. But now I think he’s wrong.
Because I picture us saying our vows, dancing awkwardly during our first dance (because, let’s admit it, it’s going to be awkward), cutting the cake and tearing it up on the dance floor. And I’m holding those pictures in my mind to propel me through this whole planning business.
Everybody says that wedding planning is stressful. But I don’t know that it has to be. You need some sort of ceremony and you need to take good care of your guests. Everything else is just details. Obviously, I want everything to be lovely and meaningful and I want the pictures to prove it. But I haven’t worried too much about things like colors matching exactly.
(Of course some of that is that my style can euphemistically be referred to as “quirky”).
I don’t know if it’s possible to love you anymore than I do now, but wedding planning has definitely given me an extra level of appreciation of just how thoughtful you are. You think about our guests’ comfort and happiness just as much as I do. You might not always want to make decisions, but you really do have some lovely ideas.
I’m not entirely sure where I’m going with this post. I guess what I’m trying to say is, we’re getting married in a month and I’m starting to get really excited about it.
Also, I should probably go home and do some laundry.
Love (as always),
Hope.
Aww, that was a lovely letter and if Kristian won’t ever read it it’s his loss. I’ve listened to a few “OMG all this wedding planning is driving me crazy” rants from friends over the last few years and it’s nice to see that this whole business can also be handled more laid back and with focus on what’s the really important part of that day.
I wish I could be there to witness it, but I’m counting on a detailed report and lots of pictures here afterwards.
This post got me all teary eyed and emotional.
I hope you enjoy your wedding day as much as those of us lucky to know you are going to enjoy celebrating the ceremony and day with you.
The last thing you need to worry about is whether we’re having a good time. You know us. It goes without saying.
*sniff!* you guys are so cute. i’m really looking forward to the wedding.. partly because i’m sure it will be an awesome party and partly because you have a great relationship and it deserves to be celebrated!!
This was a really sweet post. One month away, wow!
(Matt doesn’t want to read my blog either, and I never really quite understood. When you put it the way you did, about the fact that you tell your partner the most important stuff, which I do too, it makes a little more sense!)
He read it. 🙂 I got a very nice hug!
And there will be lots of details and pictures!
You’d better have a good time! ::shakes fist::
😉
Awww shucks. Thanks!
I’m just shocked that he doesn’t want further proof of how witty I am! :p
he’s lucky to have you ms. roth! lovely post.